So my most recent, late miscarriage is not the first miscarriage I have had this year. It is my first "late" one, but it is not my first.
February 2021 is the first time I experienced a miscarriage and although falling pregnant with Summer pretty much straight away, I had been plunged into this whole new world. Though I did not enter it fully back then, and did not even fully accept it until I was thrown deep into it when I lost Summer, I was still slightly aware of certain things.
Losing Summer was what emerged me deeper into this new world, this new life and into exploring and researching and learning more - because I had to.
A massive part of my learning, and healing has come from reading. So I thought I would dedicate today's post to sharing the books that are always within arms reach and have been and still am a massive help to me.
Saying Goodbye by Zoe Clark Coates.
This book was the first book I bought as soon as I could. I was already aware of Zoe and of the charity she set up with her husband (I will write about this in another post), but knowing her story and reading it in more detail from this book has really helped me. She gets it. She shares her own story of baby loss and how she walked through her grief. She completely validates all the feelings I had an through this book encouraged me to acknowledge and accept my first loss, and to even name our first baby, despite the gestation. She also provides a 90 days of support, filled with reflections, encouragement, empathy, comfort and advice. Without her and her words, I honestly don't know where I would be now.
The Baby Loss Guide by Zoe Clark Coates
This book has been, again, another one that I have within arms reach. Here, Zoe Clark Coates again provides a supporting guide to help us walk through our grief and also gives us hope for our future. Again she shares her story and explores the taboo subject of baby loss, this time with a 60 days of practical support. I often use this book alongside Saying Goodbye.
Pregnancy After Loss by Zoe Clark Coates
I haven't actually read this one properly yet but I got it in preparation of the future, for when Rich and I decide to try again for another baby. I know that, like Zoe and so many others, with my next pregnancy there will be a lot of stress and anxiety, purely based on the experiences of my first two. Knowing that Zoe, again, shares her story and has already walked that road, this book, I know, will be of a massive comfort to me in the future.
Silent Cries by Jonny and Joanna Ivey
This book was actually sent to me by a friend back in Chester. It is her sister in law's (I think) or brother in law's - either way, a close relative of hers story and experience. As Christians, also having walked this journey and sharing how God healed them, and how they did not let it shake their faith, but rather how they threw themselves into the arms of our Father. Even if you are not a Christian, and do not have a faith, I would still recommend this book, as it really does resonate with anyone and everyone walking through baby loss, no matter their beliefs.
All 4 of these books are available on Amazon, as well as Zoe's books being available from The Mariposa Trust Store (Link Below).
https://mariposastore.org/
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